I Can’t Keep Living Like This
But Where Do I Go From Here?
You’re here because you want the fighting to stop and to feel loved, heard and wanted again. You've tried everything and nothing seems to change what happens between you.
I can show you a different way forward—and you don’t have to resolve every past argument before things can begin to change.
Gold Coast In-Person or Online Across Australia
Private fee — Medicare rebates do not apply
Things Settle Down · But Nothing Really Changes
Eventually, one of you breaks the silence. You get on with work, dinner and everything else life needs from you. You might even have a few good days and start hoping you’ve turned a corner.
But the hurt is still there. You’re careful about what you say, or you hold it in until you can’t anymore. Then something happens, and you’re back in the conversation you promised yourselves you wouldn’t have again.
It’s exhausting. Especially when you still want a life with this person—you just don’t want it to keep feeling like this.
You want to be able to say what’s bothering you and feel heard. To enjoy being together without wondering when the next argument will happen. To feel that when life gets hard, you have someone beside you.
“Maybe We Need Someone to Help Us Talk It Through"
That makes sense. There are things you want your partner to understand, hurt you want acknowledged and problems you need to resolve. Having someone there might finally help you get somewhere.
If conversations between you quickly become defensive, heated or silent, how do you work through those things without getting hurt all over again?
Before you revisit the difficult issues, you need a different way of approaching them.
Your hurt matters. So do the things you haven’t been able to resolve. I want you to be able to talk about them and actually get somewhere, instead of leaving another conversation feeling further apart.
That’s why we begin by changing what happens between you when things get difficult.
You Don’t Have to Resolve Everything Before Things Can Begin to Feel Different
When there’s so much hurt and frustration between you, it can feel as though you need to sort through years of problems before anything can get better.
You don’t have to work through every past argument before things can begin to change. First, I’ll help you stop getting pulled into your next one.
In your first 80-minute session, I’ll help you understand what pulls you into fighting or shutting down and teach you practical tools to interrupt it. You’ll know what to practise at home, so you have a different response available when the familiar tension starts.
You’re no longer relying on another promise to “try harder”. You have a way to begin doing things differently—and that gives you a reason to feel hopeful.
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“No bringing up the past. Just positive moves to a lasting future. We had massive change after the first session.”
— Jay Willis
What Would It Mean to Feel Like a Team Again?
Being able to bring something up without bracing for an argument. Looking forward to time together. Reaching for each other because you want to, rather than wondering whether you’ll be turned away.
That’s what makes changing the pattern worth the effort. Your fighting has been taking up space that you want love, affection and companionship to fill.
Your first session is where we begin making room for that change. We won’t resolve your whole relationship in 80 minutes, but I will help you understand where to begin and give you practical tools to take home.
You don’t have to arrive knowing how to move forward. Come ready to try a different approach, and I’ll guide you through the first steps.
80-minute first session — $310
Gold Coast in-person or online across Australia
Hi, I'm Sue
Over the years, I've met hundreds of couples who believed they were coming to me because of poor communication, broken trust or constant conflict.
But I've discovered something important. Those are rarely the real problem. More often, they're the symptoms of a relationship that simply doesn't have the tools it needs to thrive.
That's why I don't spend our time deciding who's right or wrong.
I will help you build the skills, understanding and confidence to create a relationship that's stronger than the problems you're facing.
I want to help you build a relationship that's capable of solving tomorrow's problems together.
If this is the kind of change you're looking for, I'd love to help.
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"Sue showed us a completely different way of approaching relationships. We have clear and effective communication strategies that helped us reach a level of understanding we never thought possible."
— Cameron Brown
Your First Session Is Designed To Give You Relief
Relief is knowing that the next disagreement does not have to become another heated argument or another painful silence.
It is having practical tools to slow things down when emotions rise, so you can stop reacting, hear what is really being said and work through the issue together.
You may not leave with every problem solved, but you can leave feeling calmer, more hopeful and clearer about what to do next.
Stopping the fighting is where we begin. From there, I’ll guide you through building the relationship you both want.
Once conflict changes... A new way forward becomes possible
Imagine Your Next Argument Ending Differently
Imagine the next disagreement beginning the way it usually does, but this time it doesn't spiral.
Instead of raised voices, blame or another painful silence, one of you notices what is happening and knows how to slow things down. You are able to say what you really mean without attacking, and your partner can listen without immediately becoming defensive.
For once, the conversation does not end with either of you feeling defeated, rejected or alone.
It ends with relief.
You feel calmer, closer and more like a team again. In that moment, you begin to believe that your relationship may not be broken beyond repair after all.
Perhaps the future you once imagined together is still possible.
This is where real change begins
If This Makes More Sense To You...
I'd love to help.
Book your first couples counselling session and let's stop the cycle that's hurting your relationship,
so together we can begin building something stronger.
You don’t need to know whether your relationship can be saved before you book. You just need to be open to trying a different approach—one that has helped hundreds of couples over the past 10 years.
80-minute first session — $310
Gold Coast in-person or online across Australia
What Happened When Couples Tried a Different Approach
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“Sue gave us the tools to inspect and reorganise some bad habits and unhelpful ways of behaving and relating. The journey was focused on positive problem solving and not negative rehashing.”
— Amanda Lynch
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"We were in the last chance saloon... We are now planning our wedding. I only wish we'd seen Sue earlier."
— Guy
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This isn't about rehashing old issues. It's about learning practical techniques for a happy future.
— JF
FAQS
What happens after I make the booking?
You will receive an email with a link to the online paperwork for you both to fill in. The email will also include the address and door code to get into the waiting room. (If you don’t receive an email in the next couple of days, check your spam folder) The day before your session you will receive an SMS confirming your appointment. It’s important to reply back
Can I choose I online or in-person therapy?
Metanao Counselling offers both in-person sessions and online video sessions. In order to get the maximum benefit from your sessions, we ask that you engage a babysitter or a babysitting service (https://www.findababysitter.com.au) to mind your children. This means you both have no distractions and can totally focus on the most important people in your family – You and your partner
Why should I choose Metanao Counselling?
Metanao is different because we do not keep couples stuck in the past. Old slights, insults, and painful issues may have shaped where you are now, but endlessly rehashing them does not build a better relationship. Instead, we help you heal the emotions attached to past hurts, understand the patterns playing out in the present, and learn the tools and strategies needed to create a healthier, happier future together
Do both of us need to attend?
Yes, preferably both partners attend. When you both hear the same information at the same time, it becomes much easier to understand each other, support each other, and start working from the same page. It also means you are both learning the same tools and strategies together, rather than one person trying to carry the change on their own
What if my partner is unsure?
That is very common. Often one partner is ready before the other. If your partner is unsure, that does not mean things cannot improve. Many people feel hesitant about counselling because they worry they will be blamed, judged, or forced to rehash the past. My approach is different. The focus is on understanding the pattern, calming the conflict, and learning practical ways to move forward. Sometimes all a partner needs is to know this is not about taking sides. It is about helping both of you create a better way forward together
You Don’t Have to Wait Until Things Get Worse
You may already feel exhausted by the arguments, the distance or the silence between you, but this does not have to be the way your relationship continues.
You do not need to solve everything before you ask for help, and you do not need to feel certain that your relationship can be saved. You simply need to know that you do not want things to keep going the way they have been.
In your first session, we will begin changing the pattern that keeps pulling you apart and help you find a calmer, clearer way forward together.
80-minute first session — $310
Gold Coast in-person or online across Australia
